‘All women actually want is you to fuck the shit out of
them.’
‘Women have always felt lust for rapists. It’s a fact that
is easy to back up.’
‘Is it possible to rape a girl in a respectful way?’
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These are just some of the shockingly vile statements I've
seen online this week, as I delved into the world of so-called Men’s Rights
forums, where young male users come from across the world. The horrifyingly
aggressive face of modern misogyny, which appears to have taken root among our
young men and boys, and the fact the internet not only provides a forum for
such deep-seated loathing but increases the likelihood of it spilling over into
real life.
Before I even attempted to look at these vile sites, I
needed a crash course in a language that was entirely new to me. For starters,
the ‘manosphere’ refers to the blogs, message boards and various sites where
men specifically go to vent their resentment against women and/or learn how to
successfully attract them or ‘pick them up’.
Like the latest smartphone or designer sunglasses, sex is
increasingly viewed on these sites as yet another commodity there for the taking.
In this warped world, young men believe themselves entitled to have sex with
whomever they choose. The objectification of females is such that a girl who’s
‘up for sex’ with one person is necessarily ‘up for it’ with everyone. The
sexual liberation of women has become distorted into something terribly
dangerous.
My daily chores starts with reading newspaper and shockingly, there’s always something or the other about violence against women all throughout the globe. Even in the wake of 21st
Century, it’s the women who face the maximum outrage from the society. The
actions of some of my fellow 'men' makes me sick.
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Whether she is a college student travelling in some train, a
working woman returning home or a housewife walking on a road, from a child of
tender years to a lady 65 years of age, no one is safe. My personal experience
as an independent working woman staying in a different city seals the fact
more. We talk about women liberalization, independence, equality et al. but one
of the main reasons of violence against women is the mentality which deems
women inferior of men and merely limits their importance to the maintenance of
the household, the upbringing of children and pleasing their husbands and
serving other members of the family. Every woman you meet, know or related to
has been a victim of gender inequality – be its home, workplace, transport or
just, anything! You will say not everyone feels the same. Yes, time has
changed, yet attitude towards women have never been changed. To understand
better, one has to get to the root cause of the problem. It has all started ages
ago, where men are thought to be gods and powerful and women to be just like
slaves for household works.
Everyone asks me to carry a pepper spray, some even suggested
to take some martial art classes and others simply instructed me to carry
knives in my bag. My question is why? Why do I have to carry so many things to
remain safe in MY country where I pay my taxes and adhere to other norms just
like any other MEN? Why I can’t smoke in a public place but a man can pee on
the roads in a broad day light? Why can’t I wear shorts and go to my local
grocer’s shop and not a single man will look at my legs salaciously? Why can’t
I go for a walk late in the evening? Why should women or feminists have to
fight this battle? This isn't a feminist battle this a battle of HUMANITY.
Granted, it is women who are being humiliated, but in essence their tormentors
are both, men and women. Carried out by men, but assisted by other women's
silence and acceptance. The depravity is nauseating. As for “boys will be boys”,
it sums up the prevailing attitude towards females.
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Police don't care, bureaucrats are indifferent, politicians
find women seductive — it's the entire regime. Every time, I read some attacks
on women I think thank God! It’s not me. I often ask myself, am I safe in my
own country? Why do I need to extra careful while dressing up, walking across
the streets or lighting up my cigarette? Is it really an offence to be a woman?
No. I AM a woman and proud to be one! But those myriad questions still haunt me
whenever I step out of my house and read about obnoxious attitude towards us. Enough
of Women’s Day and all that jazz. Give women what they need the most – respect,
love and equality.
The actual need of the hour is a revolutionary change in the mindsets and conscience of every men around the world and just not in India, so that they stop seeing women as objects of sexual pleasure. Don't teach you daughters what not to wear, rather teach your sons how to respect women of all ages.
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About time sister
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